Discovering Your Heritage
July 31, 2008
Kris Chronicles Channeled by Serge J. Grandbois
Transcribed by Emmy van Swaaij (Atin Khum) and Reviewed by Tom Chez (Desirè)
Recorded in Toronto, Canada on July 31, 2008
MARK: Good evening and welcome to Kris radio here on that radio and thatchannel.com. My name is Mark Bukator and I’m sitting here with John Hawkins.
JOHN: Hi Mark, thank you very much and I’m sitting here with Serge Grandbois.
SERGE: And I’m sitting here with Mark and John and we’re sitting here with Myrna on the couch.
MARK: Myrna!
JOHN: Oh yes! So has anything exciting been happening in your world lately Mark? Or Serge?
MARK: I had a great week actually, a very productive week.
JOHN: Good.
MARK: Yeah I don’t know calm and productive I really enjoyed my week.
JOHN: And you were saying that you kind of enjoyed your day at work in the store today as well.
MARK: Yeah it was what could have very easily been a very miserable day for everybody and I went in with a very relaxed and calm fun attitude, made jokes about it, laughed off the fact that we were short like six people, out of seven. (Laughter)
JOHN: Now that would mean there would be no one but you…
MARK: For several hours in the morning there was and I was running frozen food, the dairy, the bread, grocery and the receiving tour and made the best of it.
JOHN: Well good! But you see don’t you think that the outward expression of your experiencing your life in a different way clearly means that…
MARK: Well yeah, I think a year ago I would have been very miserable, grumpy and swearing my head off on the same thing and ok, I still have challenges but I’m taking them in stride how I’m perceiving them and how I’m dealing with them are very different.
JOHN: Wow.
MARK: It’s exciting, it’s fun and not only that; my attitude helped everybody else in the store deal with the situation.
JOHN: Now you know what, I think that – just planning a seed here, that may be something about how to change the world.
MARK: Yes exactly.
JOHN: Yeah, yeah your attitude is infectious.
MARK: Indeed.
SERGE: It’s ok we’ll get a pill for that. (Laughter)
JOHN: How about you Serge? – Anything exciting going on in your life?
SERGE: It has been actually very nice, quiet laid back week.
JOHN: Settling into your lovely new place.
SERGE: Yep.
JOHN: We had the Toronto, the very first Toronto session in the new place. And it was a doozy.
MARK: And we celebrated Myrna’s 29th birthday.
JOHN: Yes, and that transcript by the way is well worth looking up for people who are interested in why it is, and I don’t want to create a commotion here but as we are learning this material and expanding our understanding and beginning to actually notice the world around us responding and confirming that, in addition if you’re like me and Myrna and two or three other people who were at that session you’ll also be having a kind of a what I call a musical chairs of physical ailments. Like for me it’s my knee one week and the next week it’s my eye and the next week it’s my arthritis and the next week it’s God knows what and it seems that it’s a round robin of issues and Kris addressed that very, very nicely.
MARK: Yes he did, that was a good transcript actually. That one should be out very soon. We should talk about “So you want to change the world”.
SERGE: Yep, people started signing up, it’s about four or five people now from as far away as Spain and local people as well and I think it’s very nice and it’s new people too from the states signing up.
JOHN: Oh good.
SERGE: And that should be very exciting. I was surprised people started already to book up for it, so…
MARK: And that starts Tuesday evening on August 12th for those it’s 8 consecutive weeks, every Tuesday night. At least we are going to attempt it be consecutive, there might be the odd week we have to skip due to whatever but hopefully not. It shouldn’t, it shouldn’t be an issue. Tuesdays are good for us.
SERGE: Pretty easy.
MARK: And if you want to sign up for that workshop you can go to Krischronicles.com. Kris with a K and click on the participate button and then go down to “So you want to change the world”. By the way that participate button, I have to admit I hate it.
JOHN: Why?
MARK: I hate it. I know I did it. I designed it, but the reason its there is I’ve only got so much space in that title bar and I needed to condense the workshops.
SERGE: You can maybe call it an action button.
MARK: But it is a way for people to participate with Kris, be it a workshop or private sessions or group sessions, Toronto sessions, International sessions, workshops. So that was the plan for that but I hate it. I got to come up with a way of fixing that. So don’t be surprised if it changes.
SERGE: You just saw yourself.
MARK: I know, scary ey?
JOHN: I forgot I was wearing such a bright red shirt today.
MARK: The other thing we want to talk about of course is the “Hunting for Your Dreams” workshop in New Jersey, September 6th and 7th, Edgewater New Jersey just on the other side of the river from New York and that’s a two day intense Kris workshop. Hunting for your dreams. We are encouraging people to sign up now because there are the hotel prices will go up as of August 10th.
SERGE: Yep. And we have no control over that; it is not in our hands at all.
MARK: No control over that whatsoever. In fact it goes up to regular price all discounts are off after the tenth. The hotel is really pushing to have people sign up. But also we’re encouraging people to sign up again at our website because we need the airfare! So definitely encouraging people to go there and again that’s under the participate button.
SERGE: It’s just a month and a week from now.
MARK: Right.
SERGE: The workshop is in a month and a week from now, so five weeks from now.
MARK: Oh wow.
SERGE: So it is coming up fast.
JOHN: Well the summer is really slipping by isn’t it? Yeah.
MARK: Summer, the year! (Laughs)
JOHN: My life, this whole focus is a blur to me.
MARK: Do you remember what the topic is for the year?
JOHN: Yes the topic is Creative Genius or …
MARK: Creative juices.
JOHN: Creative juices, thank you.
MARK: I forgot that’s why I said it! It wasn’t a quiz.
JOHN: Oh no, it’s “Unleashing Your Creative Juices”. So in a way you know this idea of “So you want to change the world” may be – if you think about it in that context, it may be a way for us to unleash a little bit.
MARK: Indeed, and did I just hear Alan?
ALAN: Yeah I’m on guys!
JOHN: Hey there.
MARK: So how has your week been?
ALAN: It’s been warm too! We finally officially got summer so, yeah it’s toasty.
MARK: Wow.
ALAN: I think Denver is setting a record they’ve now broken a 134-year record for most days over 90.
MARK: Wow.
JOHN: Hmmm.
SERGE: Pretty soon they’ll have to fill all those valleys with water and have big lakes and go swimming in it.
ALAN: Yeah that’s the way it’s going all the water’s drying up, we haven’t had rain in over a month.
MARK: We’re the opposite.
SERGE: We had an entire month of rain in June so I think it’s rained almost every day.
MARK: We’ve had beautiful weather every day but we get these thunderstorms that roll through mid to late day and they really dump.
SERGE: In fact the last one we had which was on Sunday, during the session we went down to the beach waterfront on Monday for a walk with Kris and some of the big willows, some of them were snapped in two.
JOHN: Really.
MARK: In a five minute little thunderstorm that rolled through and trees down.
SERGE: Just big, and we are not talking you know a two inch willow we are talking like big, big willows that snapped right in two.
MARK: How many people got hit by lightning in this year already?
SERGE: A lot.
JOHN: You know what’s fascinating about that is do you remember that talk that Kris gave recently about the tree that tries to oppose the wind and then he talked about the willow being flexible and this may be the sort of the exception that proofs the rule or something there.
SERGE: Well we noticed that those two or three big willows that were snapped, the cores had been rotten out so they had no…
MARK: You could see the termite…
JOHN: It was their time.
SERGE: Yep.
MARK: What else is going on?
JOHN: Well it’s there has been I think some very exciting things going on in what Kris is presenting recently about, I really feel honestly that he’s coming to a new stage. What we are seeing is a new layer that he’s adding. I’ve been with Kris what for…
SERGE: Since 2004.
JOHN: Four or five years now, four and in all that time I think the main focus of what he has been talking about has been you. In his words expanding your understanding of who and what you are. Now it may just be me but I’m beginning to see him broadening that horizon. I think he may feel after five years of drilling it into us that we finally got that a little bit.
MARK: I think he is letting his own creative juices flow too.
JOHN: Oh yeah, well he is entitled.
MARK: But I think yeah, I think we’re passed a certain stage where we’re moving into new zones, a new area.
JOHN: Well the thing that I’ve been noticing and maybe Alan since you’re talking from another time zone there or another place in the universe, you can maybe help us confirm this but it seems to me in my life and in Mark and Serge and Myrna and the people I know here who are Kris people, that our lives are changing. I mean big time, there’s been serious developments of things that we’ve been wanting to have happened over decades even and so now that we’ve kind of got the hang of how this works a little bit. I think he is broadening our horizon and maybe showing us that it’s not just that we create the world but it’s a fantastic co-creation involving uncounted numbers of beings and we’re getting to the point where we are almost ready to take our place there and to make a contribution.
MARK: Yeah absolutely. And I love Brahm, Brahm’s been coming out quite a bit lately and I think Brahms comments last week about moving beyond the fear based belief systems are very, very important.
JOHN: Yeah.
ALAN: Well I can tell you guys I made a post today, just to answer Johns question. I’m having the same level of change going on with me, I can’t speak for anybody else but I’ve had some big stuff this week.
MARK: Wow.
JOHN: Yeah I saw that post, very nice post Alan, yeah well this is what I think, I think even if the Skypies wanted to chime in here on this, I think those of us who have been, you know “paid our dues” so to speak. Like I can only speak really for myself and what I know among my friends and fellow people but there’s something going on and it’s a good thing.
MARK: And it’s those that are taking that formative action.
JOHN: Yes.
MARK: Doing.
JOHN: Doing something.
MARK: Doing something.
JOHN: Yes. Well I think we…
ALAN: I think, well never mind I see things in progress here.
JOHN: Oh that is what the video is for.
ALAN: It keeps me out of Kris’s hair.
KRIS: Now we trust you are all comfortable.
MARK: Yes thank you.
KRIS: And we thank you for your consideration.
MARK: Thank you!
KRIS: As you pay attention or notice more of your own actions, your behaviors, the traits and characteristics of your personality you begin to notice and as such you take what you call affirmative action, in other words you begin to realize that you have for far too long been far too accustomed to living within a very narrow, limited expanse of life. Your boxes have gotten very small over the years and now you’ve become aware of it so you can begin to push back as it were, you can once again expand the containers of your expressions as it were.
We have spoken recently about the usage of words, how words are indeed quite potent – more so than you think. They lead to inner actions. They help you recognize influences. For instance if you go shopping and you see very nice things in the store window a new shirt, a new jacket, a new suit, a new living room set or bedroom or kitchen set or you see a nice holiday vacation package or a car, or anything; All of these things that you might like. What do you often notice yourself thinking and telling yourself?
MARK: You can’t afford that.
KRIS: Indeed. That is not me, I cannot afford that, there is no money for that. You can’t have that and so on and so forth. And eventually what do you also notice in your life? You also do not have these things.
MARK: Right.
JOHN: That’s true.
KRIS: Now this is not to say that one must or should have those things as a demonstrational proof positive that you are indeed very spiritually attuned to your awareness. But is there a valid reason why you tell yourself that you cannot have this, you must not have that, you can’t have that, that is not for you it is meant for someone else, you don’t deserve this, you do not deserve that, you are not good enough for that and so on and so forth? What is that all about?
MARK: Lifelong conditioning.
KRIS: Indeed and what is that about?
MARK: A very narrow view of life?
KRIS: And what is that about?
JOHN: Fear.
KRIS: There is indeed.
JOHN: Lack of self worth.
KRIS: Yes. You could say fear of high self-esteem.
JOHN: Oh.
KRIS: Fear of success, fear of accomplishment which comes in hand in hand with all of the other little labels that you so gratuitously offer to yourself day in and day out without a second thought. So you condition yourself to not have these things, that you can not have these things, that you don’t merit these things, you don’t deserve them, you are not good enough for them.
JOHN: That’s very interesting Kris because the idea that I’m getting from that is the pervasiveness of our conditioning. In other words we’re not only conditioned to feel that we’re not worthy and that it’s scary to step out of our comfort zone, however unworthy that may be, but we’re conditioned to continually on a daily basis condition ourselves with that kind of self talk.
KRIS: Yes. Furthermore it is expected that five minutes a day, five minutes from 23 hours and 55 seconds…
JOHN: Minutes.
KRIS: Indeed, that you tell yourself all of these things but five minutes out of all that time will get you what you want.
JOHN: The math is just not supporting that.
KRIS: That is correct. Now if you inversed the situation and began to notice that you feel comfortable, you begin to feel quite happy with the idea that you can allow yourself to have these things, that whether you have them or not is not the point but that instead you can allow yourself to have all of these things and more to your heart’s content. What do you think happens then?
JOHN: If you manage to switch the percentage so that you’re 99 percent saying that stuff and only 5 percent saying the other then honest to goodness there’s just no telling what kind of a life you would be leading.
KRIS: Indeed, we have many times challenged individuals to attempt in fact indeed to begin the day with 5 minutes of focusing on happiness.
JOHN: Of happiness.
KRIS: That may indeed lead to a continuation five more minutes, you add another five minutes and already you are fifteen minutes and you follow on that track can lead down not a slippery slope but instead a hill of self-worth. We have also suggested that at times, it is a very good idea to make mountains of those molehills you feel unimportant and to make molehills out of that which you use to hassle yourselves, and you are very good at doing the hassling.
So in your own best interest to begin projecting more of an awareness of what you tell yourself on a daily basis can have powerful implications, leading to change, and the kind of change that you want. There are many individuals who secretly in a closeted sort of manner think of themselves as leaders, think of themselves as doing good works, think of themselves as being helpful and within moments the draw bridge is pulled back, because then the other inner dialogue begins to kick in.
JOHN: Oh yeah.
KRIS: And some even go as far as to feeling certain degrees of shame and guilt for having let their imagination run away with them and convince them that they could amount to something in this life.
JOHN: Oh that is so true, when I was a kid you know, I still recall being pretty full of myself at times and the way this was read by my parents and family and schoolmates was arrogance and being domineering and it was a bad thing, so I soon learned to tuck that in the closet.
MARK: Yeah.
KRIS: What do you intend to do about it?
JOHN: Well, I think I’ve already started in on that. I’m giving myself the freedom to from time to time be a little more aggressive, a little more expressive, a little more…
KRIS: Expansive?
JOHN: Yes! Thank you. Yes I’m treading lightly there.
MARK: Yes your majesty.
JOHN: (laughs) I’m cautious though because I don’t want to get smacked down again.
KRIS: And that is shall we say the other shoe that you begin, not just you specifically, but you begin to venture down that road, you allow your imagination a certain amount of leeway. You give it an inch and you worry that the inch will be pulled into a foot. Into a yard and then a mile and inevitably the other shoe will hit the floor.
JOHN: Well because you are exposed now you see.
KRIS: Indeed, you have created a certain vulnerability.
JOHN: Exactly.
KRIS: That can also be viewed as a strength.
JOHN: Well vulnerability is just another way of talking about awareness and sensitivity.
KRIS: Indeed and not necessarily a weakness or a defenselessness.
JOHN: Right.
KRIS: In that stage of vulnerability you are also far more acutely aware of actions, events, circumstances in your conditions because in some way you tell yourself watch out, because if the other shoe falls it might hit you in the head.
JOHN: Right.
KRIS: So be ready to run for cover.
JOHN: But on the other side of that Kris I’m more vulnerable to love, I’m more vulnerable to receiving.
KRIS: And that is what should be the important facet of this exchange.
JOHN: Yes.
KRIS: That all such introspections being aware of how you are organizing your processes, how you focus in on situations, how you draw them in, how you prepare yourself and it is down to a matter of choice. You are the one to choose calling in the big shoe or you call in the fast track. You jump on that fast track and you move along, you cultivate more of that experience, more of the same. You focus your attention then on developing that particular state of mind. Do you follow?
JOHN: I do. I do, it reminds me of what you were saying a couple of weeks ago about we so often look for the worst-case scenario and feel that we are being virtuous, where-as we can be adventurous and free and look for the best-case scenario.
KRIS: Indeed. And with that we would have to say, very few individuals have found a great deal of success in any endeavor in any way shape or form, by anticipating the worst-case scenario. The worst-case scenario usually brings a drought of success, a drought of love, a drought of action. In fact if you take the time to pay attention to your own energies as you focus or direct your attention towards ideas that are expansive, that bring you towards more and more success, that bring you to formative action, you will notice that your energy begins to continue to expand to reach out to draw more of itself onto the situation.
JOHN: So it builds a momentum.
KRIS: That is correct. Now it can build just as much momentum in the opposite direction, but it is a momentum that is diminishing, that leads to draught. Do you follow?
JOHN: Yes, when you’re thinking worst-case scenario you figure that the really the best you can do under those circumstances is not get it in the neck, right? You sidestep the second shoe dropping.
KRIS: Indeed.
JOHN: Whereas in the best-case scenario the worst you can do really is to just have modest gains, (Laughs) which I will take.
KRIS: And what does that tell you?
JOHN: That tells me that again, that my non-conscious or neo-conscious energies will not simply confirm what I’m doing like a Quid pro Quo[1] equal response but they will actually build on it and add to it and make it more fun and interesting and with greater momentum. So it’s not a zero sum game if you know what I mean. In other words by taking it out of one pocket it doesn’t mean that it goes into the other pocket, it means that you can fill both pockets.
KRIS: And what would be the result?
JOHN: The result would be that today I step into potentials that I only dreamed of yesterday.
KRIS: That is very nice. It does mean as well that when you take your walks, when you window shop or do actual shopping and you see things that are pleasing to you and you hear that still small voice, the nag, tell you, you can’t afford that, you should not wear that, you should not have that. You are not worthy of that.
JOHN: It’s over-priced anyway.
KRIS: Indeed, you can easily tell the nag to take a hike and choose instead to visualize yourself having these things and that it feels good, so that you are not juxtaposed in your feelings so that there is an even flow and no opposition or contrast.
JOHN: Right that’s a good point because if you were to tell yourself that you can have those things without that extra wrinkle of enjoying it than that may only get you halfway there.
KRIS: And then you can go one step further and whether you pretend or imagine that you have these things, that they are already yours and that you enjoy utilizing these things in your life, they may make your life better, they may enrich your life in some way, but feel that it is already yours. You see the difficulty and the challenge in much of these “new-age conscious-creation” is that the focus is merely on the latter, no attention given to the nag.
JOHN: Oh I see what you are saying yes.
KRIS: So that you are still left holding the bag and the nag all at the same time.
JOHN: Left holding the nag that’s cute.
KRIS: Indeed. So by taking a more comprehensive look and actually observing your consciousness in action at that moment, gives you a tremendous advantage, it not only leads you in the direction you want but it makes you aware that if you have opposing energies you know what to do with them, you know how to deal with it and transform your direction.
JOHN: Right.
KRIS: Does that make sense to you?
JOHN: Makes perfect sense and I like the point you’re making that we need to honor those opposing energies and their intentions because when we do that then we can take them on the boat with us.
KRIS: Indeed. Imagine you have two children one both very small children, one perhaps cries a lot, does not want a lot of things, does not want to do this, does not want to do that, does not want to taste their spinach, does not want to taste their ice cream, and you have another young child who wants all of these things. You might be tempted to only give to the one who wants and thereby leave the other child in the dust.
JOHN: Right.
KRIS: But these are your children, it is entirely possible that the other child is dependent upon you to encourage it to want.
JOHN: Well at least it is worth figuring out if its got a wet diaper or something.
KRIS: Indeed.
JOHN: Seeing what it has, for it is natural for it to have pleasure.
KRIS: Most children indeed.
JOHN: Yeah and I want it to have pleasure.
KRIS: It may not be the most accurate analogy but it is sufficient to bring the point home that you have a responsibility only to one person, yourself. And that responsibility is to expand your awareness as best you can. Does that make sense to you?
JOHN: Absolutely.
MARK: If I could jump in here.
KRIS: Indeed.
MARK: We had a discussion at the very beginning about my changes at work and in my work environment. And I think a major factor is that I watch my language as I like to call it, I noticed the words, I either use or formulate in my head and I’m also very aware of the language that the people around me at work are using. And since Kris had brought that up a couple of weeks ago I’ve made the point of noticing and changing that. And I’m using whether it be in my head or the words that I actually speak. I change it, cause it used to be: Oh we are never going to get ahead, it’s always this way, and they never show up for work, and never, yeah all negative, negative, negative and now it’s I’m looking at it – no it’s temporally, this is great, I can get through this, no problem. I’m having a great day and it’s made a huge impact.
JOHN: I’m glad you came to an understanding of where that came from, I think you are absolutely right. Cause that the time frame we are talking.
KRIS: Indeed and that is our challenge to all individuals, to watch your language young man. Now the point is not to suppress what you notice, the point is to take action, if you notice that most of your language, most of your words, most of what you tell yourself on a daily basis curtails your experience of life, reduces your enjoyment of life in all varieties of shapes and forms and then you literally moan about how you do not have this, how you do not have that, how you can never get ahead in life and so on and so forth.
JOHN: Which is just more words…
KRIS: Indeed if you are predisposed to b-i-t-c-h about life all the time then we suggest you look at what you tell yourself on a daily basis. Does that make sense to you?
MARK: Absolutely. And even though I still think those thoughts the fact I pay attention and catch it, I turn around to think to myself, you know that’s not true. That’s exaggeration or generalization and that’s not true.
JOHN: Well Kris, you’ve said something earlier and as is my wont I like words, I really like this whole thing about words because I’m a word guy way back.
KRIS: We are aware of your wont and words.
JOHN: My want and words, now here is the thing, you said at the beginning of this discussion that words do two things, they trigger inner actions and they reveal the influence of beliefs; Very nice, very nice.
KRIS: Indeed, in that sense words are then very powerful.
JOHN: Yeah.
KRIS: Now we believe it is time to say the word “break”.
JOHN: Ah very good.
(Break Song: “Ballad of a Thin Man” Bob Dylan -1966)
MARK: Welcome back to Kris radio here on thatradio.com. My name is Mark Bukator and I’m sitting here with John and Serge and we’ve been chatting with Kris on the use of words and watching your language.
JOHN: Watch your language young man.
SERGE: Yes you’re mom always told you that, watch your language young man!
JOHN: Yes.
MARK: Yes will you know how right she was! (Laughs)
JOHN: Yeah except that only she was worried about all the wrong stuff right? It doesn’t matter how many times you say poop, what matters how many times you say you are a poop.
MARK: Yeah exactly. So Alan how is it up there in Skype land?
ALAN: Oh Bill gone to light his grill I know that! I will say that that discussion on the worst-case scenario reminds me back twenty five years ago when I was a defense lawyer I used to think that my tendency to always think of the worst-case scenario was actually the thing that was protecting my clients, thinking that well if I know the worst thing that can happen I can protect them against it. And boy do I wish we could have had this conversation twenty-five years ago.
MARK: Did they all go to jail? (Laughs)
ALAN: Yeah!
JOHN: You know that’s, I think that’s more persuasive thinking than you may be aware Alan.
ALAN: Actually it’s a wonder I didn’t go to jail!
JOHN: Well there is still time.
ALAN: No honestly I’ve been there lately, done that.
KRIS: You may indeed not find any surprises to know that such thinking is actually encouraged by your institutions, by your societies because it is believed to be a protection mechanism. It will keep you from disappointment and hurt if you already anticipate the worst-case scenario. And what do you get from that? Worst-case scenario and it is a self-fulfilling prophecy because then they can say: “See? There is the worst-case scenario now you are prepared, now you know what life is all about.” And it is a very dark perspective indeed. It is extremely limiting albeit very creative.
JOHN: Ok.
KRIS: But it is not necessarily something that brings out your highest creative abilities. And this is also very much a part of the processes that you employ. Now in terms of conscious creation even the worst-case scenarios work perfectly. Your fixations and obsessions with worst-case scenarios work perfectly well but are they what you want?
JOHN: There’s the kicker.
KRIS: Indeed. This is the part of many of the processes we have started speaking about. Now when we or Brahm speak about processes we are not reducing your personality to something nebulous, we are instead attempting to show you that the personality is so majestically and completely filled with potential. But you have barely begun to scratch the surface and the reason for that is you hold yourself back so much, mainly out of fear, fear for the shoe, and the big shoe.
Thus by observing yourself in action and further taking action every step of the way. You suddenly realize that what appeared to be a very large mountain to climb, is no such thing but a small hill. It has been reduced because it is not overwhelming, because you have allowed yourself to begin tapping into your resources, into your potential. Thus that which is or are your dreams become life, become real. And this will be some of the items in discussion in New Jersey. Do you have any comments or observations?
MARK: Neither one of us, wow!
JOHN: How are the people in Skype land Alan, are there any questions?
ALAN: No, they’re as silent as you guys just were.
MARK: I guess the worst-case scenario is silence! (Laughs)
ALAN: Yes that’s…
JOHN: No, no now let’s just turn that around Mark, the best case scenario is out of this silence can come any question on any topic. Right?
KRIS: It is a possibility.
JOHN: What I think, what expands my understanding or expands my, you see just imagine for a moment a world with half, five or six billion people on it and all of them conditioned to belief in their own safety, comfort, nurturing environment, their powers and potentials, what an astonishing planet this would be. Can you imagine? Just imagine the architecture!
MARK: No kidding.
KRIS: The habitual repetitive thought patterns that focus upon your limitations, that focus upon your fears and restrictions, that keep you in that narrow box, in that small chamber of possibilities have been with you for a very long time. The philosophy of your original sin which goes much further back then what you call your biblical writings has been with your species for a long time and it is now the time of this renaissance. You are edging towards it very nicely. Developing that awareness, breaking free of the shackles of that old ball and chain is giving you that sense of liberation that is far more than fantasy, it is your birthright, it is your heritage. In other simple words, you are accustomed to thinking small, and because you are accustomed to thinking small because you thought small yesterday, you think it is a good idea to think small today and thereby you must think small tomorrow. And if you think small all the time, what does that say about your potential?
JOHN: Small, small, small.
KRIS: Indeed. If you begin to think large, and larger still and larger again, what begins to happen?
JOHN: You start to see greater and greater opportunities.
KRIS: Indeed, that which is your heritage, your inner genius is no longer restrained, it begins to show its influence, your potential begins to show it’s influence, your processes begin to change. Your processes begin to reflect your new-found largest of mind. You begin then to explore the majesty of your dreams. The magnificence of whom and what you are as a species, as an integral part of the cosmos. Does that make sense to you?
JOHN: Yes, and I like how we’re expanding beyond who and what I am, to who and what we are as a species…
KRIS: Indeed.
JOHN: And what we are as an integral part of the cosmos. This is resonating very good.
KRIS: Indeed each individual resonates with the potential of his or her entire race. So that potential idles in each of yours selves, in each of your arms and legs and heads and eyes and so on and so forth. That potential awaits for the start signal.
JOHN: Which I am the only one empowered to do within this focus.
KRIS: Indeed, and once you start it is inevitable, others who know you will also follow suit, in their own capacity, in their own way, that is the power of action. And those actions are also influenced by the words that you tell yourself. So that process of awakening can have a tremendous influence upon your whole entire planet but that is for another day. (Laughter) Tomorrow we begin with you. Do you follow?
JOHN: Right, I do, I do, I hear you. Well I’m is it remember when I was pondering earlier about how we are moving to a new layer of let’s call it your message. Is that… are we getting warm there?
KRIS: As you open more of yourselves up, so the opportunity is to push further. The opportunity is to also dangle the carrot a little further so you reach further. As you learn to walk around the block, so next month you may begin to run marathons.
JOHN: Well Ok, hold on, I’m not ready for that yet. Well I’ve got a question if… where are you Mark?
MARK: No go ahead, go first.
JOHN: I’ve been having, I’ve been pondering, I’ve been doing a little reading about neuro-linguistic programming in preparation for the hypnoses course that I’m going to be taking with Serge and Robert and I’m beginning to get an idea about the body consciousness that I just want to run past you. Rather than being just flesh which what it was when I just began in this focus when I was a kid, it was just my body.
KRIS: You may think that. But please go on.
JOHN: Oh all right. Rather than it just being flesh, inanimate flesh it expanded to a point where I’m beginning to understand it has a consciousness of its own but I’m going even further now in my understanding and I’m saying in a way the body consciousness is almost like a partner, a partner in this focus, between the ego and the body consciousness, so that I’m treating it in almost like an equal in this endeavor.
KRIS: Your body consciousness or awareness is more than simply there for the ride, it seeks to direct you to that which is to your best advantage, so it is an intermediary between the neo-conscious mind and the conscious mind and it can be utilized to work with either or, to facilitate nurturing and healing as it can to facilitate limitations, the perspective is always at your disposition. Do you follow?
JOHN: Yes.
KRIS: So you have merely to direct your consciousness in such a way that body awareness begins to respond in a constructive positive manner. Therefore it will assist you in any way it can. You have learned about the physiology of excellence, that is one such demonstration. You can anchor any pattern within minutes to be useful constructive and positive for yourself.
JOHN: Yeah I’ve found that helpful, well remember that time when we were talking about finding where energy enters our physical, our home, where energies and new ideas come in.
KRIS: Indeed.
JOHN: And one of your instructions about how to discover where that was physically in our apartment or home was to just stand in the middle of the living room and relax and release whatever and just let the body walk over towards it. And I find that fascinating the idea that the body itself can in a way lead the conscious mind to…
KRIS: Indeed, your physical body is a font of wisdom that is rarely ever considered worthy of investigation. Now what is the time?
MARK: five to…
KRIS: Indeed, then we believe soon it will be time for the heroic journey.
MARK: Indeed.
KRIS: Thus to quickly compliment your observations, your physical body can lead you to your own well being if you but allow it, it responses to the neo-conscious mind, it knows what you need to know, it also knows what you do not want to know and it will not intrude, unless you allow. Do you follow?
JOHN: Yes I love the idea that it is an intermediary, really almost a window in a way that opens both ways.
KRIS: Indeed and with that we thank you for your lovely discussions and considerations and we return Joseph to you.
MARK: Thank you.
JOHN: Thank you Kris.
ALAN: Thank you Kris.
MARK: The term second mind suddenly makes much more sense.
JOHN: Yeah.
MARK: OK well that’s our show for tonight. Thanks Alan.
ALAN: You bet guys.
MARK: And stay tuned for the heroic journey of the soul. Goodnight everybody.
JOHN: Goodnight everybody!
(End)
[1] Mark asked in an email to John what Quid pro Quo means and John wrote back with the following answer: ‘Quid pro Quo’ means “This for that” in literal Latin terms. The broader idea is that there is a ‘one-to-one’ causal relationship between two things, the input and the output of a situation. For instance, whatever you put in, comes out in equal measure. This has been an axiom of human mythology and philosophy for millennia.
What Kris describes is much more than ‘quid-pro-quo’ because it enlarges upon our dreams and adds layers to our imagination, and enriches our choices for taking ‘Affirmative Action’ in our nows… It is not a zero-sum system, it is open-ended and responsive to changes in consciousness.
BTW – I love his ‘accidental’ rephrasing of my formative action as ‘Affirmative Action’. This is much more resonant and I can already see it on calendars…
And we thank the darling gods of accidents and serendipity for this unexpected refinement of our vocabulary around these important issues…[!]
Embracing Change
July 27, 2008
Kris Chronicles
Channeled by Serge J. Grandbois and Transcribed by Ellen Gilbert (Kwaa’Ji)
Recorded in Toronto, Canada on Sunday, July 27, 2008
Roll Call: Serge (Joseph), Mark (Philip), Myrna (Shara-Leene), John (Sohars) and Barbara
(7:52 PM)
KRIS: Now we trust that you are all comfortable and we thank you for your consideration and since this is the official first presentation in your new residence, may all of the good intentions of the universe inundate this residence of yours, and as an extension, all of YOUR lovely residences as well. Your partial discussion of change earlier on, that there are obvious changes on the horizon, and specifically with Joseph and Philip’s lives, is very appropos (pointing to each participant in turn) as you yourself have noticed many changes in your life, as YOU have noted changes in your life, and YOU have also noted changes in your life. Generally, you look for change in the phenomenology of your reality, its construction, the appearance of new paradigms, perhaps opportunities and situations that demonstrate and enhance your well-being, your sense of peace and security and so on. But is that all of which consists change? Or is that a gentle side effect of change?
MYRNA: Interesting question.
KRIS: We are not being rhetorical. You can pitch in any time.
MARK: Well, no matter what, moment-to-moment, day to day, we’re always changing…. [Kris interrupts.]
KRIS: That is indeed a given, though we are looking for something more substantial and less ethereal.
MYRNA: Well, what comes up for me is that I noticed a shift in myself as a result of examining what’s changed, because my external circumstances have changed, so obviously my internal landscape has changed.
KRIS: Indeed.
MYRNA: There’s more, but…
BARBARA: For me it would be a confirmation that I’m changing inside when I see what happens outside, because maybe I don’t trust myself, my inner Self, so when I see what’s going on outside in my life, all the new things coming my way, stuff like that, is like my proof that oh yeah, I actually am changing. So maybe I’m starting to trust myself more because I’m seeing what’s happening outside and excitement for the new things to come. That counts as well, because I see what I can do with this. Then I’m on the go.
KRIS: That is significant, this very last part that you added. Though change that you notice externally is confirmation, it may not necessarily be because you are insecure or do not trust yourself that you need the external confirmation. You will always have a certain degree of externalized confirmation and it is to specifically continue amplifying and enhancing the process that you started. Thus it does not only confirm, but it keeps propelling you, directing your attention in that very same vein on that journey. As a result you get “more of” and you notice that you are becoming more yourself. Whatever your self is, there is therefore more of it because you always end up being more of what you were before. Does that make sense to you?
BARBARA: Yes.
KRIS: And to you?
JOHN: Absolutely.
KRIS: Would you like to add to that?
JOHN: What I have noticed – in response to your question – I have noticed my personality has changed. I’m a different guy and Brahm said something on Thursday night that has been rocking my world. Well, the thing that he said that is so magnificently poetic is he said, “Fall into the precipice of your being.”
KRIS: Indeed, we thought it was that at some point in your past, you were a very small individual!
(Group laughter)
JOHN: Well, there was that, too! But the other thing that he and I talked about is the fact that my identity is a process.
KRIS: Indeed.
JOHN: And that I’m finding to be a very, very exciting idea. See, I thought for years that my identity was –
MYRNA: Set in stone.
JOHN: — a thing! That I was a thing. That who I was…
MYRNA: This was John.
JOHN: Yes.
MARK: Or at least John was an expression OF the identity, but both are constantly transforming and changing. They are not engraved in stone. It’s a process.
KRIS: If you have the opportunity, especially during this season and as this season progresses, find some small garden — perhaps a flower garden or vegetable, or one with both flowers and vegetables and every day look at that garden, even for a few moments and take notice of small changes that you see and it will indeed represent some of the means and ways that the self also changes.
JOHN: Yes, that’s good. In fact, in a way, I’m already… you’re just helping me formalize something that’s already been happening. There’s two or three gardens on my street that I’ve been scrutinizing regularly and actually anticipating the changes. There’s one that has a beautiful purple flowers and then they died off, but you can see there’s buds there. So every time I go by I say “Hmm, are those buds up yet?”
KRIS: You can even compare the self to a year-round garden. What is there presently will flower, bloom, will go to seed, the seeds will fall to the ground and begin the process anew, but each seed carries the potential for an entirely new plant to eventually give its seed to begin the new plant again, the process repeating itself in endless ways. And even though each flower looks somewhat like the parent, there are still subtle differences and sometimes there are differences that are not so subtle that bring about an entirely different change to the process.
And as you look at the entire arrangement of the garden, there is a harmony that exists within that garden within the self. Some flowers bloom in the early spring, others bloom later on in the spring, others in the early summer, others keep blooming all summer long and each is different and still you have a beautiful harmony that awakens the senses whenever you notice it.
The personality in its own way is always blooming, always producing fruit, seeds. The changes may be subtle at first but they may become so evident as to be extraordinary in their recognition. Do you follow?
JOHN: I think so, yes. Yes I do follow.
KRIS: There are times when it is not necessarily the external manifestations that will indicate that changes have processed within you. Perhaps certain life situations or conditions may appear the same, but they may begin to present subtle differences and your personality is what makes the difference.
JOHN: Yeah, that’s a very common idea.
KRIS: Indeed, so there are many different ways to look for indications. The way you feel about yourself will influence the way you feel about the world and the world will feel different to you because it IS a different world because you are a different person and though the world may resemble the world of long ago, it no longer is that world because it does not exert the same influence and we believe that is also something you have noticed about your world.
MYRNA: Flying the other day with turbulence, I was aware I wasn’t afraid. I’ve been so afraid in the last –
KRIS: And how did that impact you?
MYRNA: Ah… there was some delight in it. What I’m struck by is when you speak to John, when John hears, whether it’s Brahm or it’s you, talking about the precipice into the “John.” You used the words, John: “That’s a lot of fun.” And you definitely are not the John I knew ten years ago. You’ve always got a smile on your face and life is “fun.”
JOHN: Ooooh, well… you know…!
(Group chuckling)
MYRNA: Okay! I’m aware of some very significant changes in my life. VERY significant! I am also aware I am more terrified than I have ever been! And…
JOHN: (Laughing)
KRIS: May we interrupt and offer a small suggestion?
MYRNA: Oh, please.
KRIS: Is it possible that what you interpret as terrifying or terror, an energy that appears to be unsettling, may actually be a sense of such deep excitement that you might be prone to interpret it as something fearsome? For, excitement of the unknown can also represent a delicious hint of fright, but it is the kind of fright that would make you drool for more and from our observation, you, in many ways, are more fearless than you are afraid. It IS good that you are internalizing that!
MYRNA: I’m sorry?
KRIS: It is good that you are internalizing it.
MYRNA: What I’m most aware of, Kris is all the distractions I have created in my life — which I’ve called fear — a distraction…. I’m really at it right now; at the real core of what I think my life is about and…. it’s the unknown! I’m right at the unknown. My greatest fear in life was to be abandoned. I came into this life, I chose death, isolation. Well…. everybody’s gone. Everybody’s gone. Other than my husband, I feel like everybody is gone. My daughter’s in Israel, my son is gone, everybody’s gone! It’s just me! And I have no… I have… whooo! I’m gonna get through this, I know I’m gonna get through this… !
KRIS: Have you ever played bowling?
MYRNA: Yes.
KRIS: When you get ready to throw that bowling ball at the pins all standing there very nicely, there is often a sense of excitement because you COULD strike, but at the same time, there is also a slight fear that the ball might go in the gutter and you get nothing. So there is a mix of feelings at that very moment and even the feeling of fear or fright also represents a kind of excitement. It sharpens and hones the senses. It makes you concentrate, doubly so, to pay attention. So you have used those capacities to get you through life. Now we believe that you have changed that around, so instead of going through life, you fly, literally. You can take all of these situations that have more or less hindered you by appearance in the past and they become those bowling pins, standing there at the end of the alley waiting for that ball to hit them. It is perhaps a strange analogy to use, but if you think about it you might find a hint of resonance.
MYRNA: Yes, I can feel that as you say that. Where I get so confused is I’m running a seminar in England and I get an ear infection several hours before I’m supposed to run this session, and I go into the session and I can’t hear! I can’t hear what they’re saying! (Frustrated laughter)
KRIS: It might simply be that you are not accustomed to Brits speaking with a potato in their mouth!
MYRNA: (Laughing) That’s true, that’s true!
KRIS: And we say that in all fun.
MYRNA: Or, I’m having trouble with my eyes. I can’t…
KRIS: These are also small, residual resistances on your part.
MYRNA: Residual?
KRIS: Indeed. Take them along with a grain of salt because you do at times take yourself overly seriously.
MYRNA: (Giving Kris a raspberry)
(Laughter)
KRIS: We take that to mean “Oh, Pshaw!”
MYRNA: (Laughing) Ohhh…
KRIS: These things do arise from time to time. Simply let them go.
MYRNA: Okay, okay, okay. Okay! So, you’re running a workshop saying…. what is it?
MARK: “So You Want To Change The World?”
MYRNA: Okay, I’m ready!
KRIS: Indeed.
MYRNA: I am ready. I have no idea…
KRIS: If we were more hip we would say “High five!”
(Laughter)
MYRNA: I’m ready.
KRIS: Good.
MARK: Is the world ready?
KRIS: What may be quite apropos is the world ready for a Shara-Leene?
JOHN: There you go!
MYRNA: Oh, it seems to me that’s a story I don’t want to repeat in my life, where I was told I was too much. I don’t want that.
KRIS: So you then become too little.
MYRNA: That’s true too. So where’s the balance?
KRIS: Enjoy being too much and be yourself.
MYRNA: Okay, thank you.
KRIS: You are indeed welcome. (To Barbara) What about your changes? You thought you could get away sitting there demurely and quietly in the corner?
MYRNA: Yeah, I want to hear about your changes.
BARBARA: Well, my changes are on so many levels and in so many areas of my life, I might need half and hour to tell about it.
KRIS: Pick one!
BARBARA: Pick one… I guess most significant, besides me getting a house now — and a few years ago I was doing welfare! That’s a huge change — but I guess my relationship with my partner, because through the exercise you gave us with pictures… I sort of ran through those pictures and I looked at myself at a different stage of my life, and my first conclusion was that in each of those pictures I was actually dealing with conflict between sex, relationships and church and in each picture that was like three or four years apart, I was actually attacking the conflict or the problem from different angles. Either I was very Catholic and denied my own nature, or I went overboard and denied my nature and lost the faith in Catholicism and I found that I was really creative in dealing with this one issue of relationships. But now I have a partner that teaches me — and I see him as my teacher — in terms of growing up emotionally and I can really use all the exercises that you can give us and I sort of try on him and I think he helps me to grow and change. It’s not easy, you know? And I see my old beliefs that I was entertaining for the longest time and I see my stubbornness and my other issues, so yes, I guess this is my biggest change.
KRIS: Indeed. The mention of change not being easy may be far easier than you let yourself believe. It is at times a hassle because everyone would want that the change occur without any effort whatsoever, but you are not necessarily the kind of species that would simply allow change whilst lying on your back. You like to defy your own odds. You like to put yourselves to the test. You like to push against all of your resistances and see what will give first, you or they. And in that kind of play, there is a relishing of your energies, of your creativity, and as you have discovered, it is perhaps not so much the change that is difficult as it is to simply embrace who you are and THAT is the true challenge because the self is often difficult to pin down. Do you follow?
BARBARA: Yes.
KRIS: Above and all of that is the idea of accepting even what you may consider to be the nasty, the naughty, the bad, all of those parts of you that you have judged, even harshly. Do you follow? You mentioned yourself that you fight with all of these issues. And to realize that there is no need to fight the issues can truly be a great burden removed from your shoulders. And instead of fighting, simply accepting, recognizing that yes, there are many different aspects of you, some that you care less than for others, but they too are vital to your value fulfillment even though those aspects you would rather bury six feet under. Perhaps situations and events from the past that you would rather bury deeply underground have been and may still be a vital aspect of your overall life. It led you to discover more of what you are.
BARBARA: In other words, taking those situations that you think that are not so much fun and to use them as a bridge, a bridge where you actually go and discover yourself more. And I’m discovering this more and more, that if I sort of step back and just take a deep breath and instead of getting into this “Aaaahhh…”
KRIS: Indeed, you are unable to discover new lands if you do not step on the ship and sail off into the unknown. Thus, the journey itself must embrace all the parts of you, even those you consider beneath contempt. The reason being that as soon as you do embrace and accept those aspects of you, all of the energy that you use to fight yourself is transformed into energy you can actually, beneficially use. Do you understand?
BARBARA: (Hesitantly) I also have one question….
KRIS: (Gently humorous) Only one? After all we have said?
BARBARA: Well, through my journey of change and embracing myself, who I am, I actually am…. it’s interesting you talked to Mark about resistance, a little bit of resistance now in physical issues… I have experienced since I started my journey when I first got hold of my Seth books and started reading all about it, I really changed in my physical body what was a gain now is actually progressing in all different alignments, whether it’s my knee with arthritis or severe allergy to fruits that I discovered lately or some other things that just keep coming with me not feeling really well in my physcial while at the same time I see that I’m making such a huge progress in terms of meditating and reading and evolving spiritually and I have this habit of picking up books and looking for messages and I picked up Edgar Cayce’s book and looked and I think there was a reading for one of his clients and it said that something about body, physical relation is actually not…. like, if you have body-spiritual relation is increasing, sometimes body-physical might actually deteriorate and there’s a certain dangerous situation. So it struck me because I think I’m making huge progress here, but this is really not….
MYRNA: Yeah! (Chuckling)
KRIS: Indeed. As we suggested, there are areas of resistances and these are often viewed as a thorn in the side of your development, as something to be removed as quickly as possible so that you can continue advancing in your spiritual journey. We may suggest that you incorporate the idea into your thought processes that this may not be quite what you make it to be. Remember that you make those situations to be what they are. And view them perhaps as a continual process of development that draws your attention to different areas or aspects that have the resistance that you can embrace. It may become tomorrow as an ankle that gives you some pain, the next week it may be an elbow, perhaps after that a tummy ache, or a neck ache or some other ache which might lead you to think today you are developing arthritis, tomorrow some kind of stomach disease and after that a neck disease. At the week’s end you are so filled with diseases you do not know where to stand.
(Group chuckling)
And it is a very common occurrence. However if you do not fight yourself in that way, but do notice that “Yes, my ankle today is representing some resistance I have to moving forward, perhaps tomorrow my tummy is signaling to me that I am having some resistance to digesting all of what I am taking in at this moment.” And so on and so forth. Allow the body to speak to you. This way you open lines of communication. You do not shut it off and the body does not feel threatened by you, but instead begins to sense that you are paying attention, that you are more intelligent than you let on. In that respect, the body may recognize that it no longer needs to bring your attention in such a drastic fashion but may find easier ways to communicate with you.
BARBARA: So it’s really all about communication between my body and me?
KRIS: Yes. And your body is representative of different aspects of your Self. Thus, communication is also a process, as YOU are a process. Your body is constantly processing energy. It is processing image. The atoms and molecules in your form are processing energy and communication to give the appearance of your bones and your hands and your legs and your blood, and so on and so forth. That is a powerful process and its energy is derived from your neo-conscious mind and deeper still.
BARBARA: So is it almost like if I sort of make some extra step in what I’m trying to learn or realizing my mind…. my body also puts out signs and then, it will show me? Like, this is not a way to go, or we don’t want this? And then if I do Triple ‘A’ sort of acknowledge, address and accept…
KRIS: Perhaps more that your body recognizes that you still have certain issues here and there that are tucked away in different parts of your neo-conscious mind, so it may utilize the opportunity to draw your attention. It is not necessarily that you might have to bring in extra-curricular activities to incorporate the body. Simply use what is already there, and be gentle. Be gentle with yourself. There is a reason why we suggested the paying attention to the words that you say to yourself, the words that you use in your language and communication with others is going to be the same kind of words and language you use to communicate with yourself.
BARBARA: Okay, here’s the question, because I for example talk differently to my husband, my partner, and different to my clients, do you know what I mean? So, would that be like different aspects of me? If I talk to myself like this in that situation you know what I mean? In different situations I talk differently. It’s not the same… do I use the same common words?
KRIS: You may use slightly different vocabulary but at base it is always the same. Perhaps it is a good idea to remind yourself every once in awhile to simply breathe.
BARBARA: Yes
KRIS: Release the tension. The tension is also an indication of resistance. You do believe yourselves to be more resistant to change, transformation and growth than you truly are. But the small amount of resistance is often blown out of proportion. You have made of this molehill a powerful mountain. When you put it in perspective it is quite manageable. Often, you tend as a species to over-intellectualize everything. Putting that aside and tapping into your greater reserve of emotional feelings, you get a different perspective of who you are. When you listen to others only and you try to please others only, you have more resistance.
BARBARA: (Words lost)
KRIS: Indeed, and that includes towards yourself. As the Buddhists say, everything in moderation, including moderation itself. Now what is the time?
MARK: 8:30
KRIS: Perhaps a small break might be of benefit.
[During break Barbara spoke about her incident with an allergic reaction to cherries.]
JOHN: Don’t assume that this temporary allergy to cherries is some permanent thing because you are in a state of flux.
MYRNA: Yeah, that’s important too, eh? To label it and say you’re allergic forever.
JOHN: Also, don’t try to fix it. If you’re going to fix something onto the wall, that is, you nail it onto the wall, right? So if you really fix something, you solidify it and if you just kind of let it flow and you’re flowing and it’s flowing… you know, the best possible scenario…
[Kris returns at this]
KRIS: The use of words as we have hinted, is quite important.
[Kris is interrupted by Mark bringing out a birthday cake for Myrna and everyone sings. Kris awaits patiently then begins again.]
KRIS: Now, the use of words is very important. You use them to condition yourselves. As you suggested, it is a very difficult thing to swallow. It is a very difficult thing to stomach or to digest and though you may not use those specific words, you may use a mental atmosphere that can be broken down to the very same thing. Does that make sense to you?
JOHN: Oh, yeah.
KRIS: In instances where you or anyone else for that matter, have been brought up to cultivate a very low sense of self-esteem and self-worth — perhaps that you have even added to that — to consider that nothing good could possibly come to you or from you or through you, and then to read and to hear that you are worthy and worthwhile individuals, that you are the children of the universe per se, that you are gods and goddesses in the making, that you are divine, that you are not only lovable and loving individuals but that you can be a source of love may go so against what you have conditioned yourselves to believe about yourselves that you are experiencing the reactions of some of your aspects that hold dearly onto those particular principles.
MYRNA: Bingo!
KRIS: Perseverance and persistence will do you well, as will being gentle.
MYRNA: And accepting your resistances.
KRIS: Indeed.
MYRNA: Or the aspects that are resistant.
KRIS: Going to war with yourself guarantees you will lose.
JOHN: Because nobody wins.
KRIS: It is tantamount to lighting a candle and challenging the sun to be brighter than your candle. Does that make sense to you?
BARBARA: Yes.
KRIS: So if paying attention to the words that you use does not give you quite the results and impact, then notice the atmospheres and the feeling-tones that you cultivate within yourself. Every time you feel that knot in your stomach, or that pain in the knee, or the pain in the neck, you can very nicely acknowledge that and address it, perhaps through EFT or other measures, including being loving and kind and accept self in all of its glorious varieties, thorns and roses both. For nothing makes the rose as inviting and sweet to perceive as the thorns.
BARBARA: (Indistinct response)
KRIS: Indeed. Contrasts.
MYRNA: I think you’ve also said then don’t also give it a lot of attention.
KRIS: That is correct. Especially when you know yourselves to be the kind of people that may over-emphasize everything to a great degree, worry yourself to death, as it were, and then, once you are dead, worry if you are truly, rightly dead.
JOHN: (Makes an indistinct joke)
MARK: Worry that you missed your life.
KRIS: Or, as some people do, worry that they do not worry enough about worrying.
MYRNA: That’s not my problem!
KRIS: Indeed not! As you noticed, we looked that way!
(Group cracks up)
You are simply very fortunate that worry does not bring warts.
MYRNA: Yes, so true!
KRIS: Does that make sense to you?
MYRNA: Oh, it makes a great deal of sense, especially tonight when… it’s not as if I haven’t heard this before, but I’m ready to hear it, obviously…. with the conditioning that I set up early in my life and sitting here with you over the last three or four years, listening to you tell us, me, a very different story… the disconnect has created HUGE resistance!
KRIS: Indeed.
MYRNA: For sure! I mean, I’m glad to have heard that tonight.
KRIS: You do know that we know of these things.
MYRNA: Yeah, of course.
KRIS: And that is why we have thrown you the bone more than once, because we know that you are dogged in your persistence to pursue excellence. Thus, throwing you a bone once in awhile exercises your capacity to go for the gold and to encounter your own resistances because in order to bite into the bone and extract its delicacies, you have to go beyond your own limits and measures. Does that make sense to you? That is in many respects one of the many keys towards embracing change.
The entire discussion this evening lays a foundation as you would anywhere else — a foundation is not simply one thing, there are many structural components that make a foundation strong, sturdy, and able to support the edifice that you will build upon it. The foundation comes from many kinds of conditioning as we have spoken about yesterday at CMI. And you can consider that everything that you do, think, imagine and process through all of your processes, are all different kinds of conditionings. Thus, when you encounter the potential to recondition yourselves in such a way that your worst fears suddenly are — how do we say? — May never materialize, that you have invested decades of energy into all of your worst fears only to find that reconditioning yourself may mean that your worst fears amount to nothing.
JOHN: It all seems a waste! (Chuckling)
MYRNA: Well, it also feels as if the rug’s pulled out from under me and that’s an unknown… that is such an unknown, like what do I stand on now without those conditioned responses? And it’s so striking for me.
KRIS: Because the old conditioned responses and the conditioning is often based upon the premise that the world is unsafe, insecure, therefore you must protect yourselves against life itself! So you build up fortresses. Sometimes, unfortunately, you only realize too late that the fortress you built is impenetrable and an impenetrable fortress not only no longer allows anyone in, but it no longer allows anyone out. It is a prison! Now, the re-conditioning lets you see that the fortress can be transformed, can be changed, can be made so that it no longer imprisons you and no longer keeps anyone out because if it keeps everyone out and yourself in, where is the love? There is no one to love and nothing to love, inside or out. And that is also a fear. Does that make sense?
MYRNA: Yes, but what I’m wondering about is when I’m in freefall.
KRIS: Indeed.
MYRNA: What am I doing in those moments? What… I just got a moment! I just got a feeling of that… Instead of fear, I could feel the excitement.
KRIS: Indeed.
MYRNA: I usually go to fear with the freefall.
KRIS: Conditioned response. The NEW conditioning – the re-conditioning – may indicate that you could spread your wings and instead of falling like a lead weight, suddenly you become an eagle, a great condor, lord of the skies.
MARK: Instinct. Open your wings. Do what comes naturally.
MYRNA: What I love about that image is in the Healing the Broken Heart [Workshop], that’s the image I have, of the eagle.
KRIS: And even if you do not open the wings, you could also enjoy the ride down because you will always find the means to land softly. Do you have any inquiries or questions? (Pause) Then in that case, we will let you enjoy your cake and your twenty-ninth birthday.
(Chuckling)
And we thank you for your lovely consideration and letting us address with you an actually quite important issue, one with great depth. And we thank you much for it.
ALL: Thank you.
[Session ends at 8:51 PM]
Tool Box: Golden Peace Process
July 25, 2008
The Golden Peace Process – Releasing Judgment
Pick one topic, perhaps one that sticks in your craw; your neighbor, mother-in-law, government, whatever you feel a victim of…
*Take a few minutes and write down exactly what you think and feel about this issue – do not censor yourself. Get exercised about the cause of these outrageous injustices against you. Write down what you want to tell these people, or these things, in the strongest possible language- make sailors blush!
*Now stop and focus on your breathing… Go and get a glass of water and perhaps go into another room for a change in perspective.
*Return and look at what you have written. How truthful is it? Is it necessarily about the person or situation or is it more about what you feel? Ask yourself again, ‘How much of this is the absolute truth and how much is my perception?’ Is it possible you were using ‘the other’ to reflect back to you, your own feeling about yourself?
*Give full consideration to what you have written. This is what you are expressing to, and about yourself! This is an extremely valuable, validating and nurturing perspective to be able to encompass. Thank yourself for being honest and clear, and thank ‘the other’ for the opportunity to gain this clarity.
*Find a mirror and look at yourself. Everything you have expressed is merely your feelings about yourself. Thank yourself in the mirror for the opportunity to clear out this room in your consciousness.
*Return and close your notebook. Notice how you feel.
This tool was delivered by Kris on December 01, 2006 on Kris Radio. To listen to the show click on the link,
http://www.krischronicles.com/radio6/2006-12-01-judgement-mp3.mp3
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Tool Box: Alternative Response Strategies (ARS)
July 25, 2008
Myrna [Shara-Leene] was asking about ways of breaking non-productive or abusive patterns. Kris comes back to add to his previous response to Myrna.
KRIS: We have in the past made mention of your intrusive – self-intrusive — and destructive behavioral patterns, your mental habit patterns. We have suggested that an initial exercise in Acknowledging, Addressing and Accepting of those patterns is an excellent place to start. If you do not know where you are coming from and what you are doing, it will eventually become difficult to identify a mode or modality to transform those patterns from self-destructive and self-intrusive into constructive, nurturing and uplifting situations.
Most often when you recognize after the fact that once again you have forgotten the moment, you have stepped outside into an arena unfamiliar to your place of peace or mindfulness, feeling loss of personal power or authority for whatever reasons, you will continue to hover in that uncertainty. One of the quickest remedies in this area is to have the patterns recognized for what they are and to establish, or perhaps we should say pre-establish alternative responsive strategies.
Remember those words: ALTERNATIVE RESPONSIVE STRATEGIES. So you know that if you get into situation A, which sets off your own alarms and you respond with fear and perhaps even retaliation, and you become then reactive, you can establish a very different response; first of all, one that is pro-active, one that is constructive and nurturing. And having worked out various steps that you feel comfortable and secure in utilizing, you can then as we have suggested, anchor the constructive, nurturing response so that you do not become reactive, but proactive whenever the situation happens to crop up. Do you follow so far?
Secondly, recognizing the reasons why you go into a fear-based reactive state will be immensely helpful in defusing your responsive patterns. Does that make sense?
Indeed. This way you have two alternatives that work hand in hand. The second one helps you bridge the situations so that you can honor yourself still whilst you are in a state of transition from reactive to proactive. And whilst moving in that direction, you defuse, perhaps even let go of those reactive patterns. Does that also make sense?
Therefore Ask Yourselves WHY.
Essence Samadhi – Nov 20 2005
[http://www.krischronicles.com/2005-transcripts/nov-20-2005-samadhi.html] **
Tool Box: Balancing Touch
July 25, 2008
KRIS: But for the moment, taking your index finger in the right hand, you can utilize it to gently touch various areas in the four different sectors of the body. Firstly to establish a flow of energy and in this you would follow this procedure: taking your right index finger, you would gently touch just above or on your pubic bone, or pelvic bone if you prefer and then, you would, using the same fingertip, touch in the area at the very bottom of the sternum. This is the Water center. You can move up to the air center by touching the area right below the throat where the breastplate begins, right below the two small protrusions of the breastbone or collarbone if you wish. There is a sensitive area right in this spot.
Next you would touch the right cheekbone below the eye, from there you would touch just above and between the two eyes where the nose bone meets the two eyebrows. There is a slight sensitive spot there it has nothing to do with what you call your third eye. Get your fingers out of your eye! (Chuckling) And hopefully not in your nose! And from there approximately the very top center of your head, another sensitive area….and from there on the right side, the back of the head where the neck tendon goes into the base of the skull, you have a small bony protrusion. Gently touch that area and then the bony protrusion behind your right ear. And rest your lovely right hand and finger.
Even right now, you might even be feeling a mild passive state, somewhat relaxed, but definitely aware of each of those parts of the body you have touched and specifically the fingertip. (Long pause)
Now, whenever you are perceiving that the flow of your energies are imbalanced, or you need to take a step back to examine the situation, you need to establish harmony within yourself, you can definitely use this simple process to establish equilibrium and even a slight detached, removed-from-the-immediate-situation state which can give you the opportunity to change your perspective, give you the opportunity to establish a Triple ‘A’. Carefully acknowledge, address and accept your situation and change your concentration, thus altering your perspective. **
Balancing Touch
